Why Are There Problem Children ?

The children's problem does not lie with the children. It lies with the families.

by Venerable Hsuan Hua

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This place is quite hot, but the wind has blown away the heat a little bit, so that all of you will not get burned by the sun's rays. I would like to express my gratitude to the representatives of the state government as well as the City Council for coming to speak to us today. We feel very honored. Each of us should abide by the laws set up by the state and city governments. Every citizen should abide by the country's laws as well and always act in accord with the legislation. Today many people have talked about helping children to resolve their problems.

The children's problem does not lie with the children. Where does it lie then? It lies with the families. Nowadays, many families are broken families. What are broken families? For example, in this country the divorce rate is very high.The government actually encourages the trend of children being born outside of marriage by supporting the mothers of those babies, giving them money and putting them on welfare. This policy is destroying the trust and loyalty that citizens place in their country.
People are very selfish, and they only care for their own immediate families. After having been married for two and a half days, not even three, they get divorced and then remarry. As a result of the high divorce rate and many broken families, we have problem children. If the families didn't break up, the parents could take good care of their children. They wouldn't be busy making money outside and leaving the children to fend for themselves. Since parents give birth to children and raise them, but cannot teach them, the children encounter a lot of problems. Therefore, the problem is not with the children. When children encounter problems, it's already too late!

If we want to solve the children's problem, we must start with the families. How? The divorce rate should not be so high, and parents should not have children without bothering to raise and teach them. Both parents should take the responsibility of educating their children. You cannot say, "To give them freedom means letting them do whatever they want!" If you don't discipline them, then "Those who draw near rouge turn red; those who draw near ink turn black," and "Those dyed in blue become blue; those dyed in yellow become yellow." Children are influenced by their environment. If you allow them to develop freely without any guidance and discipline, they may develop to the point that they will kill, set fires, smuggle, and deal in drugs. All they will think about is how to strike it rich. That's the problem with free development. Free development is acceptable within certain limits. We shouldn't let children have their own way completely. Under the laws of this country, as soon as parents try to discipline their children, the children can report them to the police and have them arrested and imprisoned.

I believe that since parents gave birth to their children, they wouldn't intentionally abuse them. Even if they were to discipline the children a little, they would do it with discretion. It shouldn't be the case that parents don't even dare to touch their own children, or scold them. That would certainly spoil the children. By analogy, if you don't trim the branches of a growing tree, the tree will only be good for firewood. However, if you trim the tree well, then it will be able to hold great weight for tens of thousands of years and its lumber will even be suitable for making pillars. Therefore, we should teach our children with care. We should try to resolve the problems that occur in families.
The divorce rate is too high, and there are too many children who don't have fathers or mothers. Those children have no way to go except to become problem children. So in resolving the childrens' problems, we should start from the families.


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